I knew that a second marriage with a blended family and ex-spouses was not going to be all rainbows and unicorns.  But the things we put up with concerning our exes ........... WOW oh WOW.......

My ex was good at first.  We both found rental houses about one mile apart so the kids could easily see us both at their leisure.  My ex works for the railroad, so is gone a lot.  (this had nothing to do with my wanting out of the marriage) He came by to see or pick up the kids about every other day when he was home.  That was then.................................

Even when I met my now husband, things were very good.  We dated for 15 months before getting married, even waited to live together until after we got married.  My kids are teenagers, his is elementary age, so we were trying to live an example we expected out of them.  Especially the teenagers. 

About one month before our wedding, my ex announces he is now dating a girl he met in the town his train goes to.  I was happy, because he was finally sounding happy.  Two weeks after this established relationship began, he takes the kids down to meet her, this is when the trouble begins.  She has only just turned 26, has three kids from three different men and two of them have already started calling him daddy.  My kids are bothered by this but I seem to be the only one adult that views this situation as a BIG RED FLAG.  In only another month, he moves her and the three kids into his home and announces they are getting married.  Another month and they announce she is pregnant.  (which turned out to not be true)  My kids are very upset at the pace of which things are going and the fact that they now only see their dad about once every two weeks.  Remember, he lives ONE mile away.  

Last April he just disappears for five weeks.  Will not call the kids, only text messages them.  They kept asking where he was, he would not answer them.  Stopped paying child support too.  The kids were so hurt by his behavior, I can not even find the words to describe my anger.  When he finally responded to me, he says he was "dealing with things", and was "depressed".  Needless to say, I did not let that be any kind of excuse to let this behavior pass as acceptable.  Another two months go by and he announces he has moved out of state about 100 miles away.  Did not say anything to me or the kids until after the fact.

So now I am waiting on my day in court, which is next Thursday.  His lawyer (according to mine) told him last month that he better try to settle out of court because it is a high possibility he will go to jail with several contempt charges on him.  The moving out of state without prior notification being the big one.  

My daughter is so hurt an angry, she confronted him last June, when he missed her birthday, did not even call her even though he was home.  She told him she was hurt and angry that he has put his wife and step children as a first priority over them.  They don't talk anymore.  He makes excuses, calls her a brat and now refuses to even try to fix things between them.  They used to be very close...........................

He will pick up my son maybe twice a month.  He is 14 and is trying to maintain a relationship with his dad.  I don't understand why.  How can you love someone that clearly does not love you back.  I try hard to keep my mouth shut about it in front of him.  We have talked about it a few times.  My son says he knows what is going on but just wants to see his dad.  

This is only just the surface of all this, but it frustrates me like crazy!!!!!  He sent a counter offer to our first demands, it was pathetic.  I really want this day in court so he has to be held accountable for his actions.  It will not change anything, I know this.  

If I had only known that the man I married could easily walk away from his own children, I would have left him right after my son was born.  That way they would not have to go through the pain of having a close, loving relationship to being rejected......... 

I came to this site to start a blog, discovered I already have one.  I forgot that almost three years ago I started this, only posed three times.  So......here I am.  So much has happened.  I have gotten married to the boyfriend I mentioned in an earlier post.  He is a wonderful man, I feel like the luckiest woman in the world.

I no longer work in hospice.  I left it almost one year ago, went back to the hospital setting to work.  The stress and frustration of never having a day off was to much.  Oh sure, we were off on weekends, but in reality, it never stopped.  So now I work on an step-down unit in the neurology tower.  It is VERY busy!  My co-workers are the best!!

My one area of stress and frustration is the ex-spouses.  This is nothing new to anyone divorced person I am aware.  Just need to vent now and then.........

The Best Feeling in the World

One of my favorite things is when he surprises me.  I am feeling sad, missing his face, his arms around me, then I turn around and find him there!!!  Running into his arms is the best feeling in the world.

It Makes Me Scratch My Head

I love fall, the leaves changing color, the smell of it, the cool breeze and watching my neighbors go crazy trying to get every leaf and walnut off the ground.  I like to keep my yard nice but raking leaves is not, nor ever has been, on my list of things to do.  It makes me laugh seeing all the machines and gadgets people use to primp and prune their yards.  I'll just put that on my list of things I will never understand...........    

Simple Things About Me

I have been working in hospice for about one year now.  I have wanted to be a hospice nurse ever since I was in nursing school.  I worked in the ER for two years, worked in the ICU for five and finally found my way to hospice.  My assigned area is the central part of the city, a very diverse population that I love and discover new challenges everyday.  

I am a single mom of two wonderful children, 12 and 15.  This past February I started dating an awesome man that has a 6 year old.  I am very lucky, my kids love him and he loves them back.

My reason for this blog is to lighten up my mood and reinforce the funny things that happen everyday.  My goal is to look for the lighter side of life and learn to laugh at it.......... everyday